Many people often ask if our children get better, recover, heal. Numerous professionals believe they don’t. If this is true then why bother trying?

The fact is that’s a lie! Much of what you may see now does heal and the rest they learn to live with. Unfortunately, it takes a long time but a commitment to Therapeutic Parenting enables us to see positive results along the way and Miraculous achievements in the long term.

It is frankly insulting when I hear other professionals saying the children are damaged for life! I was one of these children and life has never been a bed of roses but the love and consistency from my former foster mum and numerous others along the way has enabled me to eventually live a full and rewarding life.

I no longer punch people, tell lies, steal, run away, destroy things, wee on the carpet or hate everyone.

My internal working model is good, I have heaps of empathy and shame levels have reduced to such a degree, I don’t actually give a flying monkeys if people don’t like me. I know I have a good heart but mouth sometimes lets me down. Oh dear that’s a shame....

What is the residue? What do I still struggle to manage? High cortisol levels Hyper vigilance Some trust issues (I keep my circle very small) Sensory issues (they do my head in and everyone else’s) Takes me longer to self regulate than most around me Sugar addiction The occasional swear word (that’s a lie) Impatience I don’t suffer fools gladly

There is always hope for our children and TP gives us the approach and tools to help our children heal.

The NATP was set up to help you to help your child with help and support from others who also believe there is light at the end of tunnel. Don’t let anyone switch the light off!

Sarah Dillon (former child in care and founding committee member)

My life before Therapeutic Parenting was very stressful, I wasn't sure I could carry on as my whole life and my family’s life was turned upside down. I had a nervous breakdown at Christmas and had to ring MASH as I really couldn't cope any more and needed support.

Now being introduced to the National Associate of Therapeutic Parents and finding out about Therapeutic Parenting It has been life changing! My 5-year-old adopted daughter used to really struggle with her emotions and pushed every button she could to get a reaction. I understand this wasn't her fault at all, but I was trying to parent her the way I knew and did with my birth son’s who are 17 and 9 years old, but of course this was never going to work!!! T

Therapeutic Parenting has made so much sense and I'm learning more and more every day. So much so I’m doing the Diploma in Therapeutic Parenting. A friend works for a local children's services and has asked me to work with her to help other parents.

Sarah Norris. Adopter

Did you know there is an NATP Men's Support Group?

Men often have very different experiences of being parented while growing up, and different expectations as an adult. Therapeutic parenting can feel difficult to understand when you are starting from a different perspective.

It can feel intimidating to post in a group where the majority of responses are from females. This is a group to ask questions (there are no stupid questions!), share your own experiences and learn from others, all from a male perspective

By Greg, a member of the Men's group.

You can find the group here by following this link, please note for members only -